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How to Pick the Perfect Maid of Honor   

Erin Levers • Mar 27, 2018

The maid of honor assumes an important role in the wedding. This trusty friend or relative is there before and during the wedding, serving as the best friend and confidant of the bride. Knowing this, picking the right maid of honor can be a struggle.

Know Your Needs

It's vitally important for the bride to know what kind of maid of honor she seeks. Many women feel guilty for choosing one friend over another, others struggle to choose the friend who has all the right qualities. Once she knows, she can pick the friend who best matches the qualities that would be required to do the job.

Some brides want a maid of honor who will serve as the second-in-command of the wedding planning process. This includes important duties, like stuffing envelopes, following up with vendors, shopping for shoes, and doing whatever else it takes to get the wedding off the ground.

Other brides seek a less involved maid of honor: one who will listen to the bride's concerns and laugh over funny wedding planning stories, but who need not concern themselves with the nitty-gritty details of the wedding planning process.

Remember You Have Options

The maid of honor doesn't have to fit the traditional mold;this individual can be a man or a woman, best friend, mom, grandmother, or any person who is very close to the bride. Not surprisingly, there can even be two maids of honor, each handling separate parts of the wedding!

Some brides will consider their best friends and worry that they see no traditional maids of honor in the crowd. Under these circumstances, it's important to keep in mind one thing: the maid of honor should be someone that the bride loves, cares about and wants to have with her on the big day.

When In Doubt, Default to Family

Some brides find themselves in the difficult position of choosing between three, four or more best friends. t's almost always alright to pick a family member over friends. Weddings are about families, and choosing a family member as the maid of honor can prevent hurt feelings and arguments between close friends.

Go Without?

Some brides simply don't see themselves needing or wanting a maid of honor. It is certainly their prerogative; the wedding will go on, with a maid of honor or without. A bride who sees no obvious choice for maid of honor can simply choose some bridesmaids, or go without entirely.

Every wedding is customizable to the needs of the couple. The wedding party doesn't have to be like traditional other wedding parties. A bride can have as many or few maids of honor as she pleases. .

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At Bella Sera, we help brides and grooms plan their perfect wedding. With seven acres of beautiful grounds and with loads of experience hosting every kind of wedding, Bella Sera is Pittsburgh's spot for a lovely wedding, indoors or out. Contact us today to see our grounds and make an appointment.

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